Stay Connected In Your Marriage
“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry…”
– James 1:19 (NIV)
Sometimes we can better understand what a word means when we know what it’s opposite means. Take the word “connect.” It can mean a number of things.
We connect dots, we connect airplane flights to get us where we want to go, and we connect with others in our same profession hoping to learn from each other.
But what does connect mean in a marriage?
To be connected in marriage, you need to talk to each other and put a lot of effort into listening.
When each person know they are heard, that connects.
When you hang out together with your spouse, touch and sit close together and hold hands. Physical touch connects.
When you fight, try to fight fair and to resolve your differences and to show respect for each other. That connects.
Sharing a bank account connects because you then have a budget; when you stick to it you can have more to give away, and being generous connects.
Spend time together, it connects. The place you live together under the same roof is your home, stay connected there every day.
It takes a whole lot of work to stay connected in marriage.
Maybe you are barely existing in your marriage, hang in there, and be open to learning about doing marriage God’s way. Whatever it takes, do it and do it now. Heaven is ready to back you up.
Your days of existing together will then turn into days of connecting together.
(Adapted from 7 Secrets to an awesome marriage article by Dr. Kim Kimberling)
Dear Heavenly Father, I ask that you show me and all who are in a marriage relationship where we are merely existing in our marriage and family life.
Help us to connect at home in a way that allows us to cherish one another and build formidable families.
In Jesus Name. Amen.